Looking back at your lifeline take some time to journal on the following points:

  • Reflecting on Highs and Lows: Reflect on the highs and lows of your life by revisiting each marked event.
    • How have these experiences shaped you?
    • How have they influenced your emotions and contributed to your anxiety?
  • Identify Patterns and Themes: Look for patterns, trends, or recurring themes in your lifeline.
    • Are there clusters of positive or negative events? How might these relate to your emotional well-being or contribute to your anxiety?
  • Emotional Impact: Reflect on the emotional impact of each event.
    • How did these events make you feel?
    • Are there any unresolved emotions or patterns that may be contributing to how you feel and the anxiety you experience?
  • Usefulness and Purpose: Holding in mind that anxiety is an attempt to protect yourself, to soothe the pain and distress of an unmet need…
    • What has been the purpose of your anxiety?
    • When has your anxiety tried to help?
    • How has it attempted to help you?
    • What were you needing at the time that was perhaps unavailable to you?


If this reflection task brings up some emotions, feelings, and bodily sensations, try to allow yourself to experience these. It’s perfectly natural to experience a range of emotions when looking back at your life in this way. Allow yourself to move through the emotion, without avoiding it and let this inform the answers to the questions above. When you have finished, you may want to speak with a family member, partner, or friend to share what you have learnt and how you are feeling. This can provide valuable insights and perspectives. But as always, this is your personal development journey so do what you feel comfortable with.